How to Ask for Favors That People Want to Fulfill

“I’m gonna make him an offer he can’t refuse.” — Vito Corleone

Make Requests, Not Demands

This image is a reference to the movie “The Godfather”. If you don’t get it, don’t worry: it’s just me trying to be funny, and it won’t affect your understanding of this article.



Be Open About Your Feelings

Ever experienced the sensation that no matter what you say in a conversation, all your words seem fake and empty? Or perhaps you got that impression from other people — that awkward feeling that something about them is slightly off, something that causes you to feel annoyance, disbelief, or even repulsion towards them.

Think of your request as a gift

“The best antidote I know for worry is work. The best cure for weariness is the challenge of helping someone who is even more tired. One of the great ironies of life is this: He or she who serves almost always benefits more than he or she who is served.” ― Gordon B. Hinckley, “Standing for Something: 10 Neglected Virtues That Will Heal Our Hearts and Homes”

I want you to bring yourself back to the last time when you felt that deep pleasure of helping someone. That deep accomplishment and perfect connection with everything around you; that sense of fulfilled purpose and pure energy flowing through our whole body.

Change the way you see rejection

“To refuse graciously is to confer a favour” — Publilius Syrus

What I mean with the title of this article is not that these things will teach you how to force people into doing things they don’t want to do. If you are not a head chief of the Sicilian Mafia, you probably want people to feel comfortable enough to refuse your offers.

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