Published in Better Humans·Mar 29, 2021Member-onlyCaring About What Other People Think Is OkayMy recent experience overcoming shame, imposter syndrome, and feeling like I’m “not enough” — “I’ve noticed that you often seem to act based on what other people might think of you.” A friend told me this recently and it hit me hard — probably because I don’t like the part of me that cares too much about what others think, and now, here is…Imposter Syndrome4 min readImposter Syndrome4 min read
Published in Better Humans·Mar 15, 2021Member-onlyHow To Start a Sharing Circle With Your Loved Ones (and Why You Should)A technique—and opportunity—for deep connection that is rare in most social dynamics — Every time I had flatmates in the past, there was conflict. The unwashed dishes. The bits of food in the drain. The uneven task distribution. The tension that slowly builds up and eventually explodes. At the beginning of 2020, right when the first lockdowns began, I moved in with three…Relationships8 min readRelationships8 min read
Published in Better Humans·Feb 16, 2021Member-onlyHow the Tiny Habits Methodology + Minimum Viable Habits Make My New Year’s Resolutions a SuccessBuilding habits is not about willpower. The less pressure I apply, the more I feel like engaging in the practices I chose. — This is the time of year when the excitement about New Year’s resolutions usually starts to fade away. I recently wrote about why this year I am focusing on creating practices instead of setting goals: to avoid the pitfalls that make so many people quit. One of my practices, the…Habits6 min readHabits6 min read
Published in Better Humans·Jan 25, 2021Member-onlyThis Year I’m Not Setting Goals: I’m Creating PracticesHow to make sure you get where you want to be by focusing on the process instead of on the outcomes — Every time I set yearly goals, I end up either forgetting them, changing them, or quitting them altogether. Why does this happen? My theory is that my goals are either too complex, too many, not clearly actionable or not completely under my control. I remember setting goals in past years…Goals5 min readGoals5 min read
Published in Better Humans·Dec 15, 2020Member-onlyI dropped meditation after years of consistent practice. Now what?Why we quit important habits, and how to get back on track. — After meditating for 45 minutes a day for almost two years, I recently dropped the habit. If you ask me why, I struggle to find an answer. Meditation is probably in my top three life priorities, which makes it even weirder that I quit. So, what happened? The Lies We Tell Ourselves When We Fail I thought about…Meditation5 min readMeditation5 min read
Nov 27, 2020Member-onlyA 5-Minute Habit That Will Bring More Structure To Your LifeTame the mental hurricane of thoughts and decisions and tasks and get back to a place of grounded action. — In a recent conversation, a friend of mine used a great metaphor to describe how he’s been feeling lately: as if he is driving a complex spaceship full of levers and buttons and decisions to make, but feeling a desire to switch to an automatic car where all he has…Habits4 min readHabits4 min read
Published in Better Humans·Nov 23, 2020Member-onlyI Ditched All the Chairs In My House to Make Myself Move MoreWe evolved to move, not sit, and I wanted to be stronger, more flexible, and more focused. Here’s how I got more movement in my day. — If your work involves sitting down at the computer for most of the day, you probably understand the special kind of muscle stiffness that comes with it. It’s not that you’re unfit. You exercise (kind of) regularly, and you’re in better shape than a lot of your friends.Fitness6 min readFitness6 min read
Nov 9, 2020Member-onlyYou Don’t Have To [Insert Good Habit] Every DayBut you need to know the right moment to stop. — For the past two days I haven’t been feeling my best. There have been some struggles and disappointments at work and I felt mentally exhausted. My brain couldn’t think or create anything anymore. I didn’t feel like doing anything at all. So I allowed myself to do just that. I…Habits2 min readHabits2 min read
Nov 8, 2020Member-onlyAfter Reading This, You’ll Want To Hug Your Partner.You have been together for a while. Things are not as they used to be. You don’t kiss or touch so often anymore. You’ve gotten used to each other’s presence, and the butterflies are long gone. You co-exist peacefully (most of the time), and you agree that you have a…Love3 min readLove3 min read
Published in Better Humans·Aug 31, 2020Member-onlyHow Journaling in Public Is Changing My LifeThis experiment in vulnerability can create intimate connections between writer and reader—but it is not for the faint of heart — My alarm rings and I get out of bed. I wash my face, drink some water, and stretch. Then, I open my laptop, I take a deep breath, and I start typing today’s journal entry. I might write about my anxiety and my deepest fears. I might process and brainstorm…Journaling13 min readJournaling13 min read
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